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Pauliann Long, LCSW-C



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Licensed Therapist Serving the Greater D.C. and surrounding areas.


Upcoming Workshops

November 6 & November 15-17: Passage to Intimacy Weekend Workshop

For more information and to register, click HERE!

Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither is a good relationship. Falling in love is the easy part. Staying married or in a committed relationship requires healthy relationship skills and practice.

While the original PAIRS Relationship Mastery course is taught over six months, several seminars have been developed to teach relationship skills in shorter segments. In the Passage to Intimacy weekend, couples and singles learn basic skills in communication and conflict resolution. This weekend workshop is excellent for couples and singles, in any stage of a relationship.

The PAIRS Courses focus on the “skills” of relating and the underlying dynamics for sustaining intimacy. The courses take place in a group setting and the format is psycho-education. There is no required sharing in the PAIRS group setting. The usual session includes a lecture on a particular communication or conflict relationship skill, a demonstration of the skill, and the time for couples to practice the skills in dyads. Participants learn that differences are natural in each partnership and can enhance rather than detract from relationships. Communication skills create a level playing field for partners who are unequal in ability to confront. The confronter learns to listen while the listener learns to have a voice. Couples are also taught skills to enhance trust and affection. Couples end the course feeling closer to each other and more aware of how to sustain a loving, connected relationship. Singles end the course feeling stronger in their ability to relate to others as well as themselves. Insurance applies.

We have discovered however, that many couples and singles need more than the PAIRS Passage to Intimacy weekend. We therefore offer PostPAIRS sessions as monthly meetings following attendance in a PAIRS workshop. These Wednesday evenings (last Wed of month) are devoted to learning some additional skills and to practicing the PAIRS tools.

February 21 – 23, 2014:  Emotional Healing Workshop

A Center for Relationships



Emotional Healing Workshop

As adults, many of us carry unresolved emotional memories and negative relating skills that we developed in childhood. We might have had a severe trauma or chronic dysfunction in our early years. We could be carrying unresolved memories of a major trauma in adulthood, such as war or another assault on our sense of survival. Or, we may be experiencing the stress of major life changes such as the loss of a loved one, divorce, or an unwanted career change.

Often we recognize ways in which our pain from childhood or adulthood is interfering in present day relationships and activities. Sometimes, we are unaware of how we repeat with others what was learned long ago. Some people shut down emotions altogether, while others act out their emotions in destructive ways. Usually, we blame the other people in our lives for the repetitive pain we are feeling.

No matter where we are, however, the emotion or lack of emotion is ours and only we can stop the repetition. This pain pattern is the leading cause of poor choices and dysfunctional relationships or withdrawal from relating.  The workshop will encourage recognition of repetitive patterns of pain or shutdown, will allow for emotional healing, and will engender cognitive understanding as well as development of new behavioral choices. “Transforming Negative Messages” will be the particular focus of this healing workshop.

The gentle, natural approach to processing emotions will teach you how to resolve stressful feelings and heal underlying issues affecting your life. Learning to release stressful feelings from the present or far past will allow you to make better choices to live a happier, healthier life.  The workshop will include cognitive treatments, structured visualizations and dyad processes.

In a relaxed, non-confrontational environment that respects your own pace and privacy, you will learn to safely resolve current and repressed feelings, allowing important, healthy, positive changes to occur.  The workshop will be led by Lynn Turner, PhD, LCSW with Elizabeth Anderson, LCSW, ASBP Fellow; Pauliann Long, LCSW; Rick Benson, CCGC; and Marian Horton, MSW. Sign up online.

February 21 – 23, 2014

Friday 7pm-10:30pm, Saturday 10am-6pm, Sunday 10am-1:30 pm

$390 New to this workshop                    Register and pay online
$360 Experienced                         

Insurance applies                         Next workshop: October TBA

A Center for Relationships
316 Commerce St. Alexandria, VA 22314
Email or Call (703) 549-9554 x 7 for more information